I feel like I could talk about this for hours and have experienced this journey since the age of 18. Over-time I became to realise that particular life experiences were not okay for me and that it didn’t belong to me. I would often have the thought of, this isn’t right, or why does this person it’s okay to behave a certain way.
This is what I refer to when I say re-parenting ourself. It is our ability to detach from situations, experiences and behaviours and create our own reality that makes sense to us. This is why it is so challenging. You’re a brought up a certain way, but in adulthood you no longer align with this and it comes with all sorts of confusion, doubt and questioning basically everything that has happened in your life up until now.
So why am I sharing this?
This is actually a huge part of my spiritual journey and why I am here today. I am sharing this as I know I am not alone and the thought of re-parenting ourself is so terrifying that it makes you feel stuck and you start controlling your emotions in a way that is not helpful. For example, you tell a part of yourself to be quiet because its more comfortable and you think no-one will want to hear you anyway.
For me, staying quiet and not expressing myself is a big one. In my childhood I was basically left on my own (at no fault of my parents, as they could only use the resources they knew at the time), with my emotions and not knowing what to do with them. I was in a space were talking about how you feel was nonexistent. As a child I bottled everything up and I didn’t feel safe sharing my thoughts and emotions, and this is what became normal for me.
So, what happened when I became an adult? I bottled everything up, struggled to communicate my needs and it took longer to process my emotions because there was no emotional intelligence growing up.
This manifested into my reality. What you put out is what you get back in return. I was entering relationships that were not healthy and I kept finding myself in similar situations that were not good for me, this ranged from work, people and situations where I kept finding myself feeling stuck, not being able to express myself freely, coming across as ‘fake’, and living life on repeat.
So how did I get to where I am today? Why am I sharing all this?
I want to help others to be consciously aware of their experiences and situations. Do you find yourself being in the same old cycle, do you think to yourself – gee why has this happened again? This is the Universe asking you to take ownership of your reality, take responsibility and realise what is no longer yours, meaning values and beliefs.
Once my life kept going on repeat, I realised I have to help myself. I have to unlearn what I learned from wounded people and take ownership of my life. This is when the Universe stepped and guided my on this journey of re-discovering Self and my life purpose. It led me closer to my connection with Spirit and my guides, invested in mentors and completed courses like Reiki and crystal healing to better understand myself. Overtime, I re-created my values and beliefs, kept people in my life that mattered and started doing things that brought me joy, not what brought joy to please others.
Again, I could go on about re-parenting ourself for hours, but your big take-away from today is to start with awareness. Start to get curious about what no longer feels right for you, get curious with what emotions or triggers are not allowing you to move forward confidently and ask yourself what no longer makes sense in your life? This can range from people, career or situations where you feel your energy is being depleted. Take these ‘energy drainers’ as signs from the Universe that this no longer feels aligned for you and what do you want to do about it? Ask yourself, are your current thoughts/patterns helping you create the future you desire?
